Did you manage to catch the first part of Kris’ Breakthrough Experience yesterday? It was a really powerful piece talking about the divorce of his parents, the breakup of a 6 year relationship, living the ‘normal’ life that many people would have described as successful and a lot more…
Well, today’s your chance to find out what happened after he met his mentor Shaun and how over the last 4 years it’s catalysed him to make powerful change in other people’s lives as he became a mentor himself. One of the most powerful lessons for me is how he helps us all get perspective and appreciate what we go through in our lives a lot more…
The Love of Life’s Furnace
“My first real breakthrough came a few months after first meeting my mentor. I was in a group workshop and one of the guys there began to share, quite openly, about his relationship with his dad and how that had affected him growing up. It really resonated with me and for the first time in my life, I felt as though I was in the company of people I trusted and felt safe enough with to start to open up a little. I began to share about the relationship with my own dad, or should I say, lack of one…
Exploring How I Really Felt About My Father
For the first time I allowed myself to emotionally connect with how much I had resented him for leaving us, for the pain that had caused me and my family and for the man I had not become “because of him”. I admitted how I’d silently vowed to myself that I would never end up like him.
It was the first time I’d spoken to anyone at all about this and I broke down in tears. Something I had never ever allowed myself to do before. I had spent over 15 years holding everything in, ignoring it and believing it was a very big weakness to show any kind of vulnerability. Men don’t cry, they get on with it. I had become very good at holding up a mask to the world of someone who was “fine”.
To everyone I knew, I was happy and doing well in life. How little they knew that beneath the surface lay a very scared, hurt and vulnerable little boy who had never really learned to value himself, so it was a big relief to finally let some of that go.
Having People I Trust to Guide Me
The group session I was part of was just the beginning. It’s been quite a journey since then, over the last (nearly) 4 years and I can’t thank Shaun enough for all the guidance he’s given me as well as the straight and tough words when I’ve needed them! He works through and shares his own challenges too which is one of the reasons I trust him so much.
Has it been hard? Hell yes. Overcoming deeply held limited views about myself has sometimes been very painful and challenging and I’ve seriously considered giving up a couple of times. Was it worth it then? Absolutely! The hard times have been complimented by many many more enriching times of feeling free, joyful and fulfilled in ways I never knew were possible before. I definitely wouldn’t be who I am today without going through this process with the support of Shaun and everyone who’s played a part in the community throughout the years. I am humbly grateful for everything we have already created at Lighthouse International and continue to create.