Mentoring, and developing a culture of mentoring is absolutely essential to all areas of society – family life, with our nation’s children, in small businesses, and throughout large multinational organisations.
Our Chairman's Personal Mentoring Experiences
By Paul Waugh
I have benefited greatly from both mentoring others and being mentored myself for over 40 years. The benefits have been too many and too substantial to list here, but without mentoring and coaching both on the giving and receiving side, I would never ever have been able to achieve even a fraction of what I have achieved in my life.
I am truly grateful to the people who have been that Lighthouse Mentor to me, often when I have been completely at a loss as to where to go and what to do. When I would have given up, they inspired me or gave me a kick up the rear. When I needed something to grow, learn and advance (often not what I was wanting) they kindly but often firmly pointed me in the right direction. When I was ready and I had earned their help they often brainstormed the right idea with me, so that we could bring it to the table along with the right person and resources to help bring that opportunity or solution to life.
Bringing knowledge, resources, people and relationships together is something a Master Mentor can do effectively – integrating what they know with who they know along with the resources necessary to succeed with greater effectiveness and efficiency. Master Mentors do this all while helping you learn this skill yourself in order to be able to do it independently for yourself in the future, while in masterly fashion mentoring others both in your interests and theirs some time in the future.
However, the deep, meaningful and productive relationships that I have built over those years have been so very special and have added so much to my life in so many ways. I am truly grateful to both my Mentors and Mentees. Mentorship is woven throughout the fabric of my life. Without that weave of human genius and brilliance my life would be smaller, blander and less interesting in comparison. The difference is stark.
However I was not always open to Mentorship! Although I thought I did, I didn’t really understand what it was; let alone the power, scope and scale of its power when mastered and applied with mastery. Besides, I wanted to be that mythical hero figure – the self-made man!! Instead I was the lone wolf while talking team. I was the rugged individual who took five years to achieve something that in all honesty would take one with the right Mentorship. The pain of struggle is a good teacher and a cruel master. I decided one day that trying to do it alone just lacked reality and common sense. I was paying an enormous price to maintain my ego. It had to go and a whole new world of seeing, being, doing, getting and giving was opened up to me through Mentorship.
I have found that Mentorship has always delivered authentically and legitimately what both many others and I have wanted and needed within the context of my various life projects, from family to business. If I have needed the right staff or partners for my businesses, starting the right Mentorship program has always delivered the most incredible people. If I have needed funding, again the authentic credibility that naturally comes from initiating appropriate and effective mentoring platforms and programs have delivered always, in all ways, the right people and relationships. You will only understand how the world of mentoring will realistically open up doors in your life when you enter into this world. It starts with one simple step; commit to learning as much about it as you can. We at Lighthouse have a wealth of information at our fingertips by starting your own journey with our Gap Assessment & Analysis, you will start the process of understanding the areas where you need to be mentored and how you could mentor others.
I would like to take this opportunity to truly thank those wonderful people who are Mentors and Mentees while applauding those who are willing to be. It is these people who will be the leaders of the future both in their own life and in the lives of those they care about. If you are one of them, then I thank and applaud you too. If you are not, then I encourage you to discover more, starting through this insightful and catalytic Wants & Needs Gap Assessment & Analysis. I hope that if you are not a Master Mentor or Master Mentee (that you are both is important) that you will find it within yourself to be one. Why? Because you will find by way of this Assessment & Analysis that the power of Mentorship and your willingness to master it will help you optimise your life in all areas. After all, there is not one aspect of your life that the power of Mentorship is not related to in some way; whether it is being an increasingly functional mum or dad, or leading a large international organisation of tens of thousands of people. You will always prevail through being a Master Mentor.
1. In What Areas Can You Benefit Through Mentoring & Coaching?
Develop Your Confidence & Self-Discipline
Rapidly Progress In or Change Your Career
Start or Grow Your Business
Develop As An Executive & Leader
Build Highly Effective Teams
Become a Better Parent
Mentor Young People
Build Better Personal Relationships
2. What is the Difference Between Mentoring (Wisdom) & Coaching (Cleverness)?
It’s understandable that you might think mentoring and coaching are similar or even the same practice with a different title. After all, both involve one or more people helping another person become the best they can be. But they’re not the same at all. Both warrant serious consideration in our lives, businesses and careers. Both require committed and positive action if we are to optimise our lives and those in it. Both work together but in order of process; mentorship first, then coaching. Mentorship flows into coaching.
Below are the four differentiators that from the last 10 years of active research we now know to be important.
The focus is on tangible issues relating to hard skills, such as managing more effectively and efficiently, speaking with greater clarity and articulation, as well as learning how to think in a strategic way. This calls for a skills development professional (coach) who is proficient at teaching a skill set to the coachee on how to develop and be competent at the skill at hand.
Coaching is often just on a short term basis. It’s on an “as much as is needed” format. Once a skill is learned then the coachee moves on to the next skill perhaps with another coach. You will no doubt be interested to learn how we at LIG have successfully brought together the long term self-leadership top line elements like mentoring, with the shorter term bottom line management and skill-based coaching, to form a seamless Mentorship Coaching process.
Mentoring is driven and measured by the development and transformation of the person. Its aim is to develop the person for both short and longer term goals. Mentoring often leads to wonderful, meaningful and purposeful long-term relationships that coaching, by the nature of it, rarely does.
Coaching does not need as much thought and planning behind it as mentoring does. Coaching is less about the person and personal, and more about the skill. It can be done almost on the spot without any thought for the person at all, except what is relative to the skill to be coached. Mentoring has a longer, more meaningful and purposeful lead time and process.
When Coaching is preceded by Mentorship, it takes coaching and skill learning to almost unbelievable levels. It shortens the training period considerably and increases the learning and proficiency many times over.
We believe that, armed with the understanding of the differences between Mentorship and Coaching even at this basic level, you will get more out of our work at Lighthouse International Group and will be able to use it both as an inspiration and a catalyst to greater and greater achievement in your life.
The focus is on transformational issues that are often less tangible issues, like how to deal with criticism or how to focus, or how to be motivated when times are hard. How to deal with problems and challenges relating to achieving a result through and with people. It has more to do with the top line (leadership) rather than bottom line (management) of our lives, business and/or career.
Mentoring is based on sound relationships. Its aim is to provide a trust-filled environment where the Mentee shares his or her professional and personal challenges and obstacles to success.
Self-leadership along with trusting relationships is what is at the core of Mentorship; helping the Mentee with the right personal and interpersonal skills necessary to be able to apply their harder skill set, like management and technical skills with greater leadership and direction.
Top line (leadership) always precedes bottom line (management) – both are important to the Mentor and Mentee. If you have a bottom line life problem like procrastination, or being in too much debt, or not making enough money then your top line leadership issues are where you need to go to start leading yourself out of that problem process. This is what Mentorship is all about; taking the lead in your life, career and business so that the bottom line (coaching/management) can be dealt with in a powerful and optimal way, thereby not only solving the problem but succeeding to optimal levels beyond merely solving it just to survive. This is why Lighthouse International, as a direct result of years of active research with people in real life situations, advocate neither just Mentorship or just Coaching but rather both together; we call it Mentorship Coaching – bringing life and business/career leadership aspects (top line) together in order to flow down effectively to the management aspects (bottom line). We have had enormous success with it.
4. Have You Ever Considered Becoming a Mentor?
We’re now expanding at a rapid rate both nationally and internationally. As mentorship plays a crucial part at the centre of everything we do, we are on the look-out for people who want to train to become a mentor. We’re looking for people who really care about helping others and who’d like to explore building their lives as a mentorship coach.
Learning to mentor is a critical skill that is essential for anyone who wishes to develop themselves in any role relating to people. Mentoring others helps to:
Learn fundamental skills in relation to helping others be and do things more effectively
Habitualise in ourselves what we teach others – Helping others to learn actually helps us to learn better too. If you help someone learn something, you expand your own awareness and understanding of the same thing.
Cultivates a culture of trust and cohesion, rather than fear, disrespect and backstabbing in the workplace.
To advance in a career we must be able to manage and lead others well. To do that successfully we must know how to guidance them well.
5. Would You Like to Learn More About Receiving Mentorship?
We know that mentorship isn’t for everyone even if it is sorely needed. While we would love to help everyone we know that those who are genuinely hungry to progress in their lives, careers or businesses will get the most out of it. We must make sure that you are right, ready to be mentored and that we understand your unique aspirations, passions, strengths, and challenges to ensure we get you started on the best, tailored mentorship development program. All of our experienced mentors are not only mentored themselves, but began their journey with being mentored – so they are well placed to guide you through this journey.